Sunday, March 29, 2009


About a month ago some friends as well as myself went to LifeChurch in Oklahoma City. AWEOME church. The pastor there was preaching on the topic of relationships, mainly marriage, in which the whole series was entitled "The Vow". Considering i'm not in a relationship, let alone married, I figured this testimony wouldn't apply to me but as usual my assumptions came back to slap me in the face. 

Phil Munsey led the sermon to an important aspect that everyone should know and hear at least once. Most people think that a relationship should be mutual, which isn't entirely false but can lead to some big and shaky arguments. When a married couple goes to counseling a good majority of the problem is that "they won't do their part". I mean they should both put equal amounts on the table right? "Well i'll do my part if she does hers" or "If he would just contribute we wouldn't be like this". Phil explained that maybe the one implying that the other wasn't doing their part wasn't entirely doing theirs either. Best way to explain is that it comes down to showing love. Agape love.

Agape love is a love that is selfless and doesn't look for something in return. A love that gives and gives and gives and gives but is indifferent to whether or not it is returned. This love is hard to give because of the society we have been raised in. We think that we should reap what we sow. You give then i'll give. Why's this? It's simple. Heartbreak. No one wants to be heartbroken. Everyone's been heartbroken, including myself, and it's not fun. So to save us from this hearbreak we put out only the amount the other person gives so if one splits no one walks away saying, "I put too much into it." Honestly I can't blame anybody for doing this but ultimately it's not what we're called to do. We're called to show the love of Christ. The Agape Love. 

Paul gave an example of a couple that went to counseling and when asked what's the problem, the guy answered, "She doesn't respect me! I give and give and give and she just takes and takes and takes! She just doesn't respect me!" To which the counselor replies, "Do you give her a reason to respect you?" Paul explains that if we be the people we're supposed to be, the loving selflessly giving ones, then we'd get the respect we deserve and who knows...the other person might change. But again no one should expect anything in return because why? It's an Agape Love.

See when people get the taste of that love it's like feeding stray dogs...they're always coming back for more. "The Hunger for Love is much more difficult to remove than the Hunger for Bread." But the thing to get past is not expecting anything in return. It's hard. Real hard. Because we put ourselves out there to get hurt. To be vulnerable. To be heartbroken. And from experience it's not fun to go through. "The Heart is the only broken instrument that works." So how do we get past it and show this Agape Love? To put it bluntly we suck it up and remember that's what Jesus did. He loved People whether They loved Him back. I mean what's the worst scenario for us? We put ourselves out there. They either don't want any part of it or just take what you give. Does that compare to loving people unconditionally then having them turn against you and putting nails through your hands and feet?

It's time that love was shown and not just said. But hey I still get it. Neither you or me wants to get hurt again. We want to play it safe. We want to give only what's BEEN given. We want it to be on an equal square.

But what if Jesus did that? Then where would we be?

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

The American Dream?

America controls nearly 20 percent of the world's wealth.  There are around 6 billion people in the world, and there are roughly three hundred million people in the US. That makes America less than 5 percent of the world's population. And this 5 percent owns a fifth of the world's wealth. 

One billion people in the world do not have access to clean water, while the average Americans throw away 14 percent of the food we purchase.

Nearly one billion people in the world live on less than one American dollar a day.

Another 2.5 billion people in the world live on less than 2 American dollars a day.

More than half of the world lives on less than 2 dollars a day, while the average American teenager spends nearly $150 a week.

Forty percent of people in the world lack basic sanitation, while forty-nine million diapers are used and thrown away in America EVERY DAY.

One point six billion people in the world have no electricty.

Nearly one billion people in the world cannot read or sign their name.

Nearly one hundred million children are denied basic education.

By far, most of the people in the world do not own a car.

One-third of American families own three cars.

One in seven children worldwide (158 million) has to go to work every day just to survive.

Four out of five American adults are high school graduates.

Americans spend more annually on trash bags than nearly half of the world does on all goods.

So I ask what's the deal? Why is it like this? God bless America? Yeah i'd say so but why don't we use our blessings to bless others? Selfishness? Self-rightousness? So many think the more we have the more we'll be happy. Yeah right. The number of Americans taking antidepressants have tripled in the past decade. Clearly stating we're not happy. And with all the Stimulus Money going around I can't even begin to explain how much that can help the countries, let alone the people, that need it.

The American Dream? I'm living in an American Nightmare. We are in the Land of the Free and Home of the Brave. More like the Land of the Enslaved and the Home of the Scared. Enslaved to materials, self-righteousness, pride, money, and popularity. Scared to be different. Scared to go against the current. Scared to stand up for what's right instead of standing in the crowd unnoticed and on everyone's "good side". 

We are "One Nation Under God" with "Liberty and Justice for All". 

"One Nation Under God". If one is under another that means that we are subordinates. We are supposed to take orders from the Big Man because we are "One Nation Under God" not "God Under One Nation". Why can't we live up to what we have saluted to all those elementary school years? And "With Liberty and Justice for All"? Come on.

Justice - the quality of being just; righteousness and moral rightness; the moral principle determining just conduct.

So when thieves higher lawyers and win thousands to millions of dollars in a settlement because of some ridiculus reason that's just? Or when someone spills coffee, which is USUALLY HOT, on themselves they sue the corporation that served it to them saying it didn't read, "may be hot"? That's just?

American Dream? I'm proud to be an American?

Should I?

Sunday, March 8, 2009


Life is pretty swell right now. Nothing to complain about except school really but that's usually a given, and it's not even that bad; just ready for summer. Got decent grades as well as a decent GPA, hanging out with friends, taking life easy, and working on the whole design thing.

Got an awesome goal as far as school and a career goes. Decided to switch my major to Graphic Design and I plan on hitting it hard and learning anything and everything I can to become the best and most creative. Pretty psyched. 

Only thing that I need to work on now is to ready The Word more and take time to dissect it and learn from it. I find myself just reading it like a chore or good deed but know that it should be more than that. But I am doing way better than I have been so I'm just taking baby steps.

Short blog but I felt the urge to write....